Hey bookworms, I realized I haven’t done a discussion post in a while, so I decided to bring up something that I personally struggle with: lending people my books. I don’t know about you, but I am very protective of my books. I carefully care for them and usually only trust myself to read them. Now to those of you that aren’t like this I probably sound like a crazy person, but you have to understand that I have usually paid good money for these books, and especially when they are book I loved, they feel like treasured possessions.
Now on the other hand, I love when people ask me for book recommendations, and I love to share books that I really enjoyed with others. So I become very conflicted, do I lend them my book and let go of my protectiveness or do I ignore the part of me that loves to share my favourite stories with others? I have had several bad experiences were I lended someone a book and they never returned it, or returned it bent and stained, or once my friend gave me a library book back and tried to pretend it was the book I had given her.
In the end I think my desire to push books I personally loved on my friends overrides the overprotectiveness I feel about my books. There is nothing better than lending your favourite book to you friend and seeing them start to love it too!
On a last note I will add that on the other side of things, I also rarely borrow books from others. Mostly because if I love the book then I am forced to buy a book I have already read ( because yes, I am a weirdo and I need to own all my favourite books). The bottom line is that if I decide to lend you one of my books it is my way of saying that I trust you completely, unless of course any harm comes to the book (**cue evil villain laughter)
What are your thoughts? Do you like to lend others books, or borrow books yourself? let me know in the comments!
All of the above. I do lend books but don’t expect to get them back. Reading is an experience. I wrote a post called ‘a novel idea’ about this very subject.
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I thought that this post brought up some good points. I have loaned books out and never had them returned. Now that I read mostly eBooks, loaning out my books is not an option.
Do you loan out your books? Do you have them returned in good condition? Do you recommend that others loan out their books?
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Great post! I don’t borrow people books as I hardly get them back.
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Great post, I’ve been lucky enough to not have had any bad experiences when lending out my books though I’m always really nervous just in case something does happen.
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that is lucky! I hope you never have a bad experience, because I can tell you it makes you really over cautious in lending after that
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Thanks, I hope so too and I’m really sorry about the bad experiences you have had.
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I think I took a middle ground on this topic. I lend but to a chosen few – those who will lend me their books and they will care about the books just like I would. If I suspect that will not be the case, I won’t even show them my book treasure. I NEED TO HIDE THEM.
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Hahaha definitely! There needs to be mutual trust
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I only lend books to my mum because I know she will return them. Books I’ve read and don’t wan to keep i give away or put Book Fairy stickers on them and leave them in the shops, the park or on the bus.
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Oh that’s so nice! I always love those library boxes you find places where you can leave a book and take a book!
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Oh I have my little treasures.
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I have lost a lot of books in the past because I’ve loaned them out. I don’t have a lot of actual books anymore because I don’t have the room. So a lot of what I get these days is on Kindle and it’s a pain to loan those out. That gives me an out.
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Haha I have tried to lend books before but then I never see them again. LOL
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I do lend my books out to friends, but am hesitant! I only give them to a few friends who I know will return them!
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I buy people copies rather than loan out mine. I am overprotective. I do share with Megan but she knows better than to damage the spine!
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If it is a book that can be found super cheap on Amazon, I will (a lot of times) purchase a second copy and give it to someone, if I think they will like it. I am protective of my books, like you, and lend them only to a few select people.
Megan – Ginger Mom and the Kindle Quest
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I lend my books to trusted friends without problem! As I have already too many on my TBR I don’t borrow them. And I LOVE recommending books!
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I also love giving recommendations! It’s so fun to tell someone about a book and then they end up loving it too
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I bought a library stamp with my name on it so hopefully those who keep my book can feel guilty that my name is in it!! But, alas I hardly get my books back either and it makes me sad. So I stopped lending copies and started buying people books as gifts for bdays, holidays.
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I have surprisingly few physical books, and they’re mostly non-fiction reference materials that no one in their right mind would ever want to read. But no one touches my kindle…
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Hahaha if I had a kindle there would be no way I would let people use it either!
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Rarely do I ever receive my books back – so I only lend those I don’t want to see again 😉
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I feel free to borrow a book to someone close to me and that I know he or she will keep an eye on it. Because i really take care of my books.
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I just lent my copy of Ready Player One to my firend and she spilled an entire coffee on it. She confessed that she had and bought me a brand new version of it though so that made eup for it.
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That’s nice that she replaced it! It’s funny, when I accidentally damage one of my books I don’t care at all but if someone else does I am so annoyed
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Same! I will get strawberry juice on a book and be like oh well but when someone else does it, the rage comes out 😛
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It depends who’s asking – there are some people I wouldn’t trust not to damage a house brick let alone a book – but there are a few people I can trust with my books. My Nan is no longer one though, which was a tough one to explain to her.
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Hahahaha aw, ya it is always hard when you don’t trust someone, like how do I tell them I don’t want to lend them a book?!
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Usually I do lend people my books but then I want them back in a proper condition. One time I got one back with a bent spine and all … urg, I was not happy ….
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Ah that sucks! I got one back once and the dust jacket was all dirty and ripped, I was not impressed
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Oh my gosh…that #readthebook GIF is one I use WAY too often ha-ha! I tend to lend books to people I KNOW will take care of them…so some of my friends and family. I don’t mind letting people borrow it for an extended period of time, but I’ve had a few books not returned…some of which were my favourites…so now I’m hesitant to depart from them.
There are some books I refuse to lend out – they are my “collection” or “expensive” or “favourite” ones that I would seriously lose it if they were damaged or lost or never returned.
I feel like a book snob some days…
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I totally get that, I never lend out my Harry Potter books! Also any that are really special to me or have sentimental value
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I don’t lend books out, mainly because I used to but they would never come back. I have a rule now where I don’t lend and I don’t borrow.
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It really sucks when people don’t give books back, especially if it was a favourite one and then you have to re buy it
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I do lend books to friends/family occasionally but usually I’ll give them a recommendation instead as in the past I’ve lent out books and not got them back unfortunately. I’m fine with lending good friends and family books, as long as they don’t destroy them etc!
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I agree, I only lend to people I really trust 😊
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If I don’t want anyone to touch my books I just pretend I only have a Kindle copy lol
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Hahahaha I’m totally going to use that sometime!
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I used to be super paranoid that people will ruin them, but I’m a lot more chill about the way I treat my own books now, so it doesn’t worry me lending them to people. You seem to have had some pretty bad experiences though 💔
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I definitely am trying to be more chill about it but I have become very paranoid about my books’ safety
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I really like lending books to other but I’m also very possessive about my books. Once to mark a page, my friend folded it so much, that there was a permanent crease on the book. Duh! I’m possessive about my book marks too🙈
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Ugh that’s the worst, I almost want to give people a list of conditions when I lend them books but also don’t want to come across as a crazy person lol
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I have lent people my books and have not gotten them back, or I have gotten them back and they are NOT in good condition. I have stopped lending out books. Now I get books from the library. If I fall in love with a book or series, I buy them. Then I don’t tell anyone that I own them, because I am like a dragon, I hoard my books.
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Hahaha I like that analogy! I am definitely a book hoarder myself, it’s just safer that way
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